8 Ways to Build Self Confidence
1. Dress Sharply: Although there’s more to us than the way we look dress and look, it can greatly affect the way we feel. When we think we don’t look good we often feel less confident. That changes how we act and interact with other people.
2. Increase your pace of walking: People who walk quickly usually look more confident. They have places to go; they have people to see; and their life is interesting and fast paced.
3. Good Posture: Slumped shoulders are a signal of lack of self confidence. But if you always stand up straight, and you look straight ahead up, then you look more powerful and confident.4. Develop an attitude of gratitude: Make a mental list of all you’re grateful for – relationships, successes, and things that bring you joy. You’ll be surprised at how many things are going well – and that will boost to your confidence and self-esteem.
5. Compliment others: When we get into the habit of complimenting others, we bring out the best both in ourselves and other people. That leads to respect and increased self confidence.
6. Speak up in group discussion: The more you speak up in a group, the less self conscious you will feel – so taking that first step will have a knock on effect. It will both lower your anxiety and increase confidence.
7. Make the effort to exercise: When we’re out of shape, we tend to feel less confident, less energetic, and less good about about ourselves. But when we make the extra effort to invest in exercise we feel more in control of how we look and how we act – and that creates momentum which affects the rest of life.
8. Focus on others and the task you’re working on: Ironically, when we focus on ourselves - and not the job or other people - we often find we start to worry about our weaknesses. However, when we turn our focus outward, efficiency increase, and we feel less self-conscious and much more confident.
Hormones that make you happy
- Serotonin: Serotonin is sometimes called the happiness hormone. Serotonin regulates the mood,prevents depression and makes you feel happy. Serotonin can be released by getting exposed to sunlight, by eating foods rich in carbohydrates and by exercising.
- Endorphins: Endorphins can make you feel good, reduce your anxiety and your sensitivity to pain. Endorphins are released by exercising
- Dopamine: Dopamine helps you to feel mentally alert. The lack of it might cause lack of attention, lack of concentration and bad moods. Dopamine can be released by eating foods that are rich in protein.
- Phenylethamine: Phenylethamine is the hormone that results in the feelings we get in the early stages of a relationship. Cocoa beans contain Phenylethamine. eating chocolate might be helpful too.
- Ghrelin: Gherlin is a hormone that reduces stress and can help you become more relaxed. Ghrelin is released when we become Hungary that’s why eating too much is not always a good idea. Just eat according to your body’s needs and never fill your stomach completely in order to maintain good Ghrelin levels
Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.
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| — | Susan Cain, Quiet (via accountedfor) |
Psych. Theory: 5 Types of Infidelity
Because it’s theorized that no unfaithful action “just happens”, that each encounter serves some kind of psychological purpose, here is a list of 5 types of Infidelity and their explanation.
1.) Opportunistic Infidelity - Probably the most common, especially among younger people, Opportunistic Infidelity is cheating on a partner purely for physical reasons. The opportunity presents itself, and you take it. Emotional attachment and “love” is still targeted at your said partner. The infidelity is based solely on lust/impulsiveness.
2.) Obligatory Infidelity - This is where things get a bit more complicated. Obligatory Infidelity is when one is afraid that turning down a sexual advance (from someone outside the relationship) will disappoint that person. Disappointing that person might lead to them thinking lowly of you, which will lead to them disliking you, which is rejection - which hurts. To avoid this, one simply gives in to the physical advance. Again, emotional attachment is still directed at partner.
3.) Romantic Infidelity - Pretty literal, Romantic Infidelity is the opposite of those up there. Typically happening near the end of a relationship, when one begins to have romantic feelings for someone other than their partner.
4.) Conflicted Romantic Infidelity - Things get a bit craycray here. Conflicted Romantic Infidelity is when someone is both physically attracted and emotionally attached to their partner, and other people as well. Some people are okay with this, which typically leads to things like open relationships. Most times, though, things are kept hidden, there is no communication, the person feels torn, etc.
5.) Commemorative Infidelity - This is the only one on this list that has made me a bit sad. Commemorative Infidelity is when one has completely fallen out of love with their partner, but continues to be in a committed relationship with them. Committed meaning, there is no “cheating” whatsoever. But the emotional attachment is completely gone.
